ok i do notice my question is not along the lines of talking about attaboy but i need tips.....i am going to high school next year and i am so scared....any help?
ok i do notice my question is not along the lines of talking about attaboy but i need tips.....i am going to high school next year and i am so scared....any help?
Well, Chelsea, I can tell you that you're not the only one who has to go through this...I am too. What is it you are worried about? Is it the work? Making new friends and fitting in? Getting used to the new school? The pressure of working for college as soon as you walk through those high school doors? Whatever it is, I can help you through it.
If it is the schoolwork you are worried about (in my case I am totally freaked out about my math), I suggest doing some daily or at least twice a week hour-long study session stuff to prepare you. I know it sounds very boring, but I promise you it will be worth it when you walk into class and know what the teacher is talking about.
If it is getting used to the school, fitting in and making friends, I suggest joining some clubs or organizations that you like and saying hi to everyone you meet there until a conversation starts and you make new friends. Try to have a smile for everyone you see at school- a smile cam brighten a person's whole day. Just be nice to people, because you never know what they might be going through. You will definately make friends by doing that as well. Also, the best thing to do soon after you make a new friend is tell them that you believe in God and to invite them to come to church with you. Even if they think believeing in God is stupid and a total waste of time, they will have to respect your forwardness and courage in telling them this up-front and you could change their whole life.
If it's being perfect for college...the best thing to do is to study every night and trust yourself to be able to do this. Pray to God and ask others to pray for you concerning this. Take school and homework and studying seriously, and you will be rewarded. If you don't understand something, ask for help. The only stupid question is one that wasn't asked due to fear of humiliation. Find someone-a parent, youth leader, pastor, family friend, or whoever to act as your mentor and tutor and be open to talking to them about this. Another thing to NOT do is this- do not procrastinate. I have learned the hard way that you never have as much time as you think you do. Do all the work as soon as it is assigned, and do all extra credit that is offered, regardless or whether or not you think you need it. Don't stress too hard or you will do poorly.
If you have a hard time paying attention to the teacher, try this. Take notes on whatever the teacher is talking about and remind yourself that the class is more important than whatever else you are thinking about. And praying to God about that couldn't hurt, now could it?
And if you freak out about tests, remember this- if you have studied, you know the material. All you have to do now is show what you know to your teacher, and that's not hard, is it? If you know the material, just be confident that you can and will get and A and do not allow yourself to think of "what if", because that's what will kill you on the test. Take a deep breath, drink some coffee and eat a good, balanced breakfast in the morning (and I read in a reliable magazine that eating something more sugary before a big test actually can help you to do better and think better. Eating fish also helps you to think better.
If you have a hard time remembering things and daily studying isn't totally helping, try making flash cards or having somebody quiz you from your notes.
thanks alot for the advice beth...it should really help me....im not quite sure why im so scared...just the thought i guess freaks me out....but i will use the tips you told they should come in handy....again thanks
thanks alot for the advice beth...it should really help me....im not quite sure why im so scared...just the thought i guess freaks me out....but i will use the tips you told they should come in handy....again thanks
Hey, it's really no problem. I am glad to be of help. In fact, if there's anything else you are worried about, I would love to help you out. School can be scary, but not with friends by your side, right?
i totally agree...without friends i wouldnt have been able to survive middle school...but lately ive been feeling like im being left out of the group of friends i hang out with...they talk about things they did together over the weekend that i didnt kno one thing about..and when i invite them to come over or something a week b4 later that week they all decide to go to some party they were invited to...any help?
i totally agree...without friends i wouldnt have been able to survive middle school...but lately ive been feeling like im being left out of the group of friends i hang out with...they talk about things they did together over the weekend that i didnt kno one thing about..and when i invite them to come over or something a week b4 later that week they all decide to go to some party they were invited to...any help?
It's hard when friends leave you out of their plans. I have been there myself, and I know what it feels like. It sucks.
You see, I have an identical mirror-image twin sister (that means that I am left-handed and she is right-handed). She and I share the same friends. But last year, in seventh grade, someone new moved to my school-and my church. I will call her Mary. Mary and my sister got along great, but I thought Mary was a little annoying at times. It was just that she kept asking questions during a movie or something like "What's going to happen next?" or "I thought _____ was going to happen. I'm confused," when she knew that I had not seen the movie before either. It was totally something I could live with, but it still bugged me. Well, I made the mistake of telling Mary's mother that I thought she was annoying. It just slipped out. She freaked and overreacted as all mothers do and Mary wouldn't talk to me and my sister literally tried to force me not to hang out with her. She used the cover that she was trying to protect Mary from me. As if! My sister was fiercely competitive and possessive over this girl, (she claimed that ONLY she and Mary were best friends and I wasn't allowed to be) and all my friends were friends with her, too, which made things hard. I made up with Mary quickly and was again widely accepted, except that my sister didn't want me around. She had twisted Mary around her little finger and told her she didn't want me to come to the sleepovers with the rest of the girls, so she was invited and I wasn't. although months had passed since my unfortunate mishap and Mary and I were best friends, but she "couldn't" upset my sister. So I was left out. Within a matter of months things changed and again I was included in everyone's plans, but those parties I wasn't invited to stabbed me in the back. I was hurt and upset that I wasn't invited. I deserved to be. But I wasn't. My sister wasn't tryng to be the bad guy, she just didn't have as many friends as I did because her personality isn't as easy to get along with.
I would say that if your friends continue to leave you out, confront them about it and let them kow just how it makes you feel. Maybe they don't kow that this upsets you. Tell them that if they are really your friends, they wouldn't be acting this way. Also, try to make new friends and spend more time with them. If your friends don't want you anymore, you don't need them. Right?
Possibly it's just that they made new friends and the excitement of the whole new friends thing is hard to walk away from. They might just want to spend time with their new friends because they are NEW friends. Not to say that there is anything wrong with old friends, because there's NOT. If this is the case, try to become friends with their new friends and see if you can all hang out together.
Sorry, but it seems to me like they're ditching you. I don't think you need them. Pray to God to let you save these friendships if you can, but if you can't, make new ones and don't let these people upset you. You are awesome. Don't forget that.
yea ur probably right...see this one girl we were friends in kindergarden and then i had to move...so we lost touch...then when middle school came and she and i made new friends our two schools were put together....at first we didnt talk then we got a class together and we became the bestest of friends out there...the problem was that all of my friends were not fond of her and hers was not me...we hang out with her friends now and im pretty close but when someone asks them what happened to the old relationship between them they blame it on me. my situation is completly different than ne one elses...but its summer now and im hoping that i will make new friends and if not i will be going to high school where 3 different schools will be coming into mine...
[quote="chelsea"]yea ur probably right...see this one girl we were friends in kindergarden and then i had to move...so we lost touch...then when middle school came and she and i made new friends our two schools were put together....at first we didnt talk then we got a class together and we became the bestest of friends out there...the problem was that all of my friends were not fond of her and hers was not me...we hang out with her friends now and im pretty close but when someone asks them what happened to the old relationship between them they blame it on me. my situation is completly different than ne one elses...but its summer now and im hoping that i will make new friends and if not i will be going to high school where 3 different schools will be coming into mine...
